"Let me give you a new command: Love one another. In the same way I loved you, you love one another. This is how everyone will recognize that you are my disciples—when they see the love you have for each other." John 13:34-35 (the Message)
This weeks reading resources:
Growing Kid's God's Way by Gary & Anne Marie Ezzo
Main points for me:
Christian values reflect the person of Christ. When shared with our children, such values trigger a child's consciousness of God and eternity.
Biblical ethics is other-oriented-not as a way to salvation but as a result of salvation.
Our goodness, is a love response to God rooted in our relationship with Christ. "We are to love one another, for love is of God" (1 John 4:7)
The duty of parents is to continually bring their children to God's standard and not lower the standard to suit the child. (kindness, patience, self-control, gentleness, humility, endurance, obedience, respect, honesty, integrity, etc.)
"Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love him with all that's in you, love him with all you've got!
Write these commandments that I've given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates. " Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (the Message)
This Scripture gives us three principles of moral instruction:
1. Only one absolute God, His commandments are consistent with His perfect character and all biblical values are and extension of His character.
2. Moral training begins with the principles of moral conduct residing in the parents' hearts, we cannot pass on that which we ourselves do not already have.
3. Moral training is to be infused into all aspects of our family Lives all of the time, preferably at times of non-conflict.
Know it, live it, and share the experience with your children.
Focus on teaching your kid's the do's instead of suppressing the don'ts.
Focus on instruction in Christ likeness with encouragement in virtuous living.
Important to teach kid's how to's (moral action) and even more importantly the why for's (moral principle)
Moral why's when the behaviour deals with people
Practical why's when the behaviour deals with things
A child taking ownership of parental values depends on several factors working in harmony. Starting with instilling biblical values into the heart of a child. This process includes parental example, trusting relationships, parental honesty, security of the husband and wife relationship, the expression of family loyalty, and many more relational components. These factors encourage children to integrate mom and dad's value system into their lives.
Avoid Legalism and the abuse of parental authority- when the form of truth is elevated above the substance of truth (elevating the rule over the principle)
Important to teach our children how to act morally and more importantly how to think morally.
Continuing to practice First Time Obedience
Efficacy
same as last week
Observations in our home
the newness of First Time Obedience has worn off but like last week I find the more obedient I am to following the structure of First Time Obedience the better the success rate (still a good 75-80%) I want to continue using this tool for I find the more I use it the easier it gets and the better the kid's get at it. Then we all win.
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